Dad
The Oncologist said: “It’s lymphoma, the aggressive kind. It could be weeks. It could be next week. Tell your brother to come NOW!”
My brother said: “Come NOW!”
I said: “I’m coming.”
My wife said: “I’m coming with you.”
My mother said: “I want to go with him.”
My Palestinian Muslim neighbor, himself an old man, said: “We all die. Your father is in the hands of Allah.”
My Palestinian Christian (Greek Orthodox) neighbor, likewise old, said: “First he dies, then he lives. Go to the church and light a candle.” He meant his church, the Church of the Resurrection. I went. I lit a candle. Right next to the empty tomb, I lit a candle.
My daughter said: “Is grandpa in pain?”
My son said: “Can grandpa talk on the phone?”
Sunday’s preacher said: “Your sins are forgiven!” She said it like she believed it – said it over and over again – “Your sins are forgiven.” Maybe she said it like she believed it, and over and over again, because she really didn’t believe it, but wanted to – or at least wanted us to. But she said it. “Your sins are forgiven!”
My father said: “I’m ready to go.”
My mother said: “I don’t want you to go.”
My brother said: “I’m glad you’re here.
I said: “Damn.”
You said what?
I said: “Damn.”
Damn? To your mother?
Yes.
What did she say?
Nodding and crying, my mother said: “Yeah. Yeah.”
And my father’s Father in Heaven, turned to the Son, and said: “He’s got that about right I guess.”
And the Son said: “Yeah. Forgive him, he doesn’t know what he’s saying.”
And my father’s Father in Heaven said: “Yeah he does. And yeah, I did.”



