“So are you anxious for Ramadan to end?”
Ayman looked at me as if I had just used the “f” word in front of his grandmother.
“No,” he said, “of course not. We love Ramadan. We are in the routine now.”
Ayman is a small businessman who has a shop near our home. I often stop by to visit with him. He has three sons, the oldest two in high school, the youngest 12-years-old. All three boys are preparing for college. Ayman hopes that one of them will go to college in the States. Ayman is a well-educated man himself.
Ayman is a friend.
Ramadan has being going on for 3 weeks now, and quite frankly, Sally and I are ready to have it end. The blasted canon going off at 4:30 or 5 every morning has me back wetting the bed, and the noise on our downtown street is getting a little old. Of course I’m also ready to have my favorite coffee shop open again in the mornings. I miss my coffee shop. People there know me. They welcome me when I come in the door. I’m Norm in Cheers. My God, what’s happening to me!
Ramadan is driving me crazy.
Trying to find rational for 30 days of fasting all day and binge eating, drinking (not alcohol), smoking and visiting with family and friends every night, I ask Ayman, “Do you think Ramadan is good for you?”
I am seriously trying good Ayman’s patience. “What are you saying?’ he asks me with this wonderful Arab male look of incredulity on his face. A look that says, “You pagan you!”
“Well, you see Ayman, I’m just thinking that this not eating and drinking all day and eating so much at night is not good for your body. That’s what I’m thinking.”
“Abu Issa, Abu Issa, you are always thinking, always thinking.” (I am called after the name of my first and only son, Joshua, which is not an Arab name. The closest to it is Issa, which is Jesus. So I am Abu Issa, Father of Jesus – huge name, huh?) “Abu Issa, we don’t do this because it is good for us. We don’t even ask that kind of a question. We keep Ramadan because Allah tells us to keep Ramadan. Whether we benefit from Ramadan is not important. We trust Allah, and in the Quran, Allah commanded us to keep Ramadan, so we keep Ramadan. We obey Allah.”
When he says this I get a chill. Partly because I’ve heard words like these before and not from anyone as good and kind as Ayman, but from extremists who use this logic to justify murder and mayhem. “We obey Allah.” I hear the same from Jewish folks who have the same logic and theology as this. Why do you not eat pork? Why do you observe Sabbath? Why do you continue to expand settlements in the West Bank? “Because we are the people of God. We don’t eat pork because God commanded us in Torah not to eat pork. We observe Sabbath because God commanded us in Torah to observe Sabbath. We continue to grab all the land we can no matter the consequences because in Torah God says the land belongs to us.”
"But, but, people are being killed, innocent people." "Never mind all that -- God says ..."
I’ve even heard a leading TV evangelist in the States, John Hagee, quote from Deuteronomy to justify the killing of Palestinian children and youth. This Christian leader claims that God commands the Jewish people to kill anyone who will not leave the land of Israel on their own, or submit to the God-given authority of the Jewish people. You have a chill now? No? Then you are not chill-able?
You have to respect this to a certain degree, right? Christians like me – and Jews and Muslims like me as well – are all the time thinking, all the time trying to understand why the the Word of God says this or that. What’s the logic behind this? What was God thinking here? What is behind Jesus’ words? Paul’s? Always thinking. Always questioning. It would be easier to simply pick your favorite words of Scripture and obey them to the letter. Right?
When it comes to what we eat, or keeping certain days holy, or enjoying the feasts and festivals of our various faith traditions, then strict obedience has no downside that I can think of anyway. No need to think about what God may have been thinking. Just enjoy the party. Why not?
However, there comes a time when God expects us to think, I think. “Question me! Challenge me! Go ahead, I can take it. Think! Obey!” I think you can do both. I think God expects us to do both. Or else why create a creature in your own image? Trust and obey. Yes! Think and obey. Yes!
Abraham did this. Sarah did this. Moses, Hannah, Samuel, the psalmists, the prophets – check out Jonah – all these questioned and challenged God. And Jesus too, right? I know, I know, Jesus was God in the flesh so it is God challenging God, but doesn’t that make you think as well? It should I think. "Father, Father ..." Haven't you ever wondered about Jesus' need to pray? You don't think there was ever questioning in those times of prayer? Think again.
Peter, Paul, and all the thinkers and questioners who followed after these men, questioned and obeyed. Why have we stopped? Why have we stopped allowing for questions?
I love Ayman’s attitude toward his God and the word of his God. I also know Ayman to be a man of peace and nonviolence, as he and I have had many discussions on the violence here and in other places as well. I know that Ayman is a man who thinks and questions. So, with grace, I accept his chiding of me. His point is well taken. I do tend to think too much, question more than I should. Just ask any of my old teachers.
But, I remind you, I am Abu Issa!
Seriously now, I’d remind you that the real Abu Issa is an expectant Father who wants his children to obey, yes, but not blindly or without questioning. We can question God, challenge God without challenging God’s authority, the authority of God’s Word – a living, breathing organism, by the way. We can do that, and I think we should do it with some regularity. And if we can question God, then certainly, we can question those who do not.